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The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking

March 16th, 2010 · 01 My Thoughts

 

I love having ADHD, I really do! It’s amazing what powers I have found within myself and my ADHD traits. I wouldn’t give up my ADHD for anything in the world, not now, no way!

When I first found out I had ADHD at the age of 37 and how it had been negatively impacting my life all along I was very upset about it, mostly because the diagnosis came so late and my life and circumstances could have been much improved with an early diagnosis, especially if I had been diagnosed in first or second grade, instead of just being held back and then put in special education class.

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Physciatric Therapy and ADHD

March 10th, 2010 · 01 My Thoughts

I have been in a lot of battles in my life, some were life threatening, some were tug of wars with myself for things I simply did not understand and some were just me trying to be confrontational with, well, me, myself and I.

ADHD can suck so bad that nothing else matters, it leads to a life of constant struggle, going nowhere, unless backwards is a place you want to go. When an adult discovers he has ADHD (or she) I think it is natural to want to find treatment to improve the symptoms, to counter them as soon as possible. The quickest way to do that is with medication, the more profound and life enhancing way, I believe, is through professional physciatric therapy to actually go in and take stock of what we are thinking and why. The suddenly new possibilities of living an improved, aware life are the brightest ‘ohh shiny’ of all, but can also be the most damning.

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ADHD E-Books For You!

Free to download, read, save and share!

March 8th, 2010 · eBooks

Just about every day I receive an email about my eBooks, how to get them, the cost, etc… They are fr-ee, you can share them with anyone that you like, you can repost them, etc… etc… here is the link to all 3 E-books, You do not have to do anything except click on the cover of any one you like and then SAVE it to your computer forever and ever, because it’s now yours! If you like, after you read, then you can email it to people or post to your website. No hoops to jump through, no requirement from you whatsoever!

1 of the eBooks will make it into print this summer! Can YOU guess which one?

Have fun, enjoy and share :-)

(edit) instead of a link to the post, I have copied over the files here for you:

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You can’t take it back – what is said is said – ADHD impulsivity

March 6th, 2010 · 01 My Thoughts, 4 Men, 4 women, What is ADD AD/HD?

Impulsivity can lead to disaster due to blurting out thoughts never meant to be spoken.

Thoughts race through our minds, here, there and back again. Some thoughts don’t mean much, they just race by and have no concrete meaning, but every now and then, in the heat of a moment or in uncontrolled haste, some thoughts never meant to be said slip out and, as much as we would like to and as much as we try to explain and apologize, we can’t take them back.

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You are not alone

An ADDer’s creed

March 3rd, 2010 · 000 Brilliant Reality of ADHD, 01 My Thoughts

It’s easier alone.

So it seems.

Sometimes, the preference to be alone is so great that it is hard to break away from, it’s seductive and oh so quiet. When we are alone there is no one to judge us, no one to condemn us, moreover, there is no one to argue with.

But, alas, being alone is so lonely.

Not to know what to say, or how to say it if you did know. It’s so much better to remain in the shadow, hushed and alone. When alone, there’s no grade or compliance, there’s no role to play or correction to make. It’s easier to be alone, because, there’s no one to tell you that you are wrong, that you don’t have what it takes, that the way you live is wrong, that what you are doing is causing problems, that how you act is unacceptable.

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What is the meaning of life?

March 1st, 2010 · 000 Brilliant Reality of ADHD, 01 My Thoughts, ADDer book reviews

 

To be beat down, criticized, punished and live with regret and guilt all of our days?

 No.   There is another way – a positive, self fulfilling way.  I am going to share that way with you.

Life is more than we give it credit to be and yet too many of us live within a shell of fear and anxiety. We walk the halls of our life flinching from the slightest sound which echoes within our minds, on and on, and on. We fight against it, we try to be strong and we try to walk tall. We try to show confidence and strength. We go day to day wearing the mask of life as strong courageous human beings. But why does it have to be a mask, why does it have to hurt so much, why can’t we just be understood and accepted for who we are? Why do others try to hurt us and tear us down? Why do we want to give up and yet still continue?

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Insecurities Are Not Attractive

February 23rd, 2010 · 01 My Thoughts

“Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness.”

~Unknown

It’s a harsh reality in the ADHD world, but let’s face it and put it right out there in the open: insecurities are not attractive, not sexy and in no way come across as positive statements in attracting a loving, caring partner.

Ouch!

It’s a glaring hindrance to fulfilling relationships for many people with ADHD, especially for undiagnosed or untreated ADDers and that is “insecurity”. Insecurities come across in many ways and most of those ways are ‘in disguise’!

Here are a few of them:

  • Jealousy
  • Acting funny (when the situation doesn’t call for it)
  • Teasing
  • Arrogance
  • Negativity
  • Distancing (not calling, staying away or just being quiet)
  • Anger
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Advice I give to young people, students, teenagers, kids and children with ADD or ADHD

Share your advice with our youth of today!

February 21st, 2010 · 01 My Thoughts

There’s a certain question or group of questions which are basically the same that I get asked time and time again. The questions are: “What would you tell your younger self if you could go back in time?” – “What message do you have for the youth today suffering from ADHD?” – “What’s the one thing you would tell a student that would help them achieve academic success…?” And many more, but in the end the answers I give relate to all young people with ADHD, regardless of how the question is phrased:

1) Do not rely on trial and error alone.

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Book Covers Revealed

Special thanks to your input and suggestions for cover!!!

February 15th, 2010 · 01 My Thoughts, Adult ADHD Sexy

Thanks to our ADDer World members, we have the final front and back cover for Adult ADHD can be Sexy!

Special thanks to all of our members on our ADDer World Network who were so kind to give input. Interestingly, with this request I soon realized I have quite a few readers who have not become members of our AW Network yet and you wrote me with your opinions – thanks to all who took a little time out, your input has helped a great deal and has influenced the final cover! Here ya go:

Back:

 

Thanks for the overwhelming suggestion to use picture A, we decided to use it on the back cover, this could change depending on how it looks in print. We still have time to decide which photos to use inside the book, so if you haven’t given your input yet on which photos for inside the book, please feel free to do so at this link.

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Photo shoot for new book

Help us pick a picture or pictures!

February 12th, 2010 · 01 My Thoughts, 05 Wife supports her ADDer, 4 Men, 4 women, Adult ADHD Sexy

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Sorry I haven’t had the time to write as much as I would like lately. The new book has captured a lot more of my time than I thought it would and now that it is near completion, I really don’t have a clue what to write about at the moment. Hopefully, that’s just a phase? Have you finished a major project and then kind of wondered around a while wondering what to do next and it seems as though there’s nothing else to do? That’s kind of where I am at.

For the new book Joan and I wanted to include a few pictures for very specific places within it. You get to see a selection we are considering in this post. Please tell us which one’s you like best. We want you to have a part in this book. Next week we reveal the completed cover, which was accomplished with the assistance of members’ suggestions!

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SAGA OF ADHD Update

February 7th, 2010 · 01 My Thoughts

Hope everyone is having a wonderful week so far! It’s been an active week on our ADDer World Social Network, as usual! We have the best members in the world. Lots of new members have joined, please feel free to stop by and give them a warm welcome.

The publication of my new book is very close at hand. IF you are interested in receiving a signed copy, visit THIS link, it’s quick and easy. Hey! Are you taking part? Start now, it’s never too late!

What’s new on ADDer World this week, or updated:

Adults with PI, do you have 1 or 2 signs of hyperactivity? This one’s about primary inattentive ADD and Coffee! I love coffee; it’s been my life saver, but too much?

WHAT IS THE ONE THING YOU WOULD CHANGE ABOUT ADHD? Just one thing? Tell us.

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UP yep UP and Daydreaming

January 27th, 2010 · 01 My Thoughts

Our ADDer World ADHD Social Network site was under maintenance by NING recently and is back up! Whew!

Here are some of our latest posts to check out (folks are daydreaming lately!):

I was trying to daydream, but my mind kept wandering.

Daydreaming Along Singing Our Song……..

If you’ve mentioned our ADDer World ADHD Social Network on your blog or website in an article or post, please let me know and I will let our members know where they can read your post. Keath Low has a great blog about A.D.D. and she mentioned ADDer World here. Also another member, Jeff recently mentioned our ADDer World Social network on his always interesting blog here.

Also, I would like to make a very special mention of my Brother-in-Law’s (Joan’s Brother) wonderful book:

mldv

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Referral Contest for New Book

January 8th, 2010 · 01 My Thoughts

We have had some great, helpful books given away by fantastic authors over the last year, Nancy Ratey, Gina Pera, Bryan Robinson, Barbara Sher, Lara Honos-Webb, Nancy Irwin and Kenneth Kay. Thank you very much to each of these authors for offering their autographed books to our ADDer World ADHD Social Network members! There are more to come, but first…

To start off 2010 I am giving away 13 signed copies of my new book Adult ADHD can be Sexy!

I am very, very happy and proud of my new book which will be released this coming summer! This isn’t your usual book about ADHD and it is not designed for beginners to the world of ADHD! However, if you have any interest at all in relationships, love and intimacy in connection with ADHD, this is a book I believe you will enjoy and get something special out of!

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Interview – Relationships and 2010 another New Year!

December 31st, 2009 · 01 My Thoughts, Adult ADHD Sexy

The other day I came across an interview I did for ADD.about.com in August 2008, not too long after I published my first book. Keath Low conducted the interview; she is the caring and wonderful guide to ADD for About.com. Keath wanted this interview to focus on peer relationships. After re-reading this interview I contacted Keath and asked her if I could re-post it. The reason is because in 2010 I will be publishing my next book Adult ADHD can be Sexy, this new book is about relationships, love, intimacy and ADHD! I have discovered that there is nothing I enjoy writing about more. Relationships have had profound effects on my life and to be clear I have made a lot of mistakes within relationships, heartbreaks that have lived alive and well within me years after relationships ended or went awry.

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