Comments for ADDER WORLD ADD ADHD Positive Thinking http://www.adderworld.com/blog1 ADD ADHD Attention Deficit Disorder my thoughts Blog Thu, 18 Mar 2010 07:26:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking by Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34284 Bryan Hutchinson Thu, 18 Mar 2010 07:26:15 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34284 Welcome aboard Glenn! Glad to have ya! The pain, the struggles, the challenges, the heartbreaks, Glenn, are very real and if we allow them to, they give us every reason to go in a negative direction. It's understandable and I have done it myself and that, my friend, is why I write my stories... looking forward to more of your input :) Welcome aboard Glenn! Glad to have ya! The pain, the struggles, the challenges, the heartbreaks, Glenn, are very real and if we allow them to, they give us every reason to go in a negative direction. It’s understandable and I have done it myself and that, my friend, is why I write my stories… looking forward to more of your input :)

]]> Comment on The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking by Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34283 Bryan Hutchinson Thu, 18 Mar 2010 07:17:35 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34283 I get exactly what you are saying Scott. I've been there and done that and let me tell you, no words I write can change that for you or anyone else and to be honest, I don't know if my words should play that role. For me though, I have struggled and failed in many things, but I have also succeeded in many things - in those places I have succeeded it is because I learned to work with the disadvantages and not allow them to rule. My perception of them was a major issue. In billiards for example, I tried to 'force' positions, 'force' shots, but when I learned to work with what was given to me, even the terrible positions which made it look like the game was lost, only then when taking the bad and trying to find what I could make good out of it, did I find a winning shot (not always lol)! The hard part was that just looking at it another way wasn't the only key, but when I did that I started to learn ways to compensate, new ways to put spin (english) on the ball and new ways to extend the game and I became a better player for doing it that way. I try to look at everything that way, it doesn't change the fact I have ADHD or that ADHD causes me struggles and pain, of course it does, but do I allow those things to rule over me <strong>or</strong> do I find a way to make them work to my advantage? Besides, ADHD is a part of who I am it is not separate from me and I cannot banish it, if I call it an enemy, then ultimately I am calling a part of who I am within an enemy and that's something I simply cannot and will not do any more. Now, on the other hand, if ADHD could be cured or if it was a tumor that could be removed, then we would be talking about something else, but we are talking about something that is a part of who we are and no matter what angle we come from, it will always remain a part of us. If I were to sincerely think of ADHD as an enemy then I would go back to working against it, then like before, I will be ultimately working against myself. We find that in treatment, studying with a partner or a tutor helps us - that's not fighting ADHD, that's actually working with ADHD and suddenly, by productively managing it in a manner that is beneficial to it (ourselves actually) then we start to study better, learn better and absorb better... that's not something I would do with an enemy. Would you? Just my perspective, of course :) Bryan I get exactly what you are saying Scott. I’ve been there and done that and let me tell you, no words I write can change that for you or anyone else and to be honest, I don’t know if my words should play that role. For me though, I have struggled and failed in many things, but I have also succeeded in many things – in those places I have succeeded it is because I learned to work with the disadvantages and not allow them to rule. My perception of them was a major issue. In billiards for example, I tried to ‘force’ positions, ‘force’ shots, but when I learned to work with what was given to me, even the terrible positions which made it look like the game was lost, only then when taking the bad and trying to find what I could make good out of it, did I find a winning shot (not always lol)! The hard part was that just looking at it another way wasn’t the only key, but when I did that I started to learn ways to compensate, new ways to put spin (english) on the ball and new ways to extend the game and I became a better player for doing it that way. I try to look at everything that way, it doesn’t change the fact I have ADHD or that ADHD causes me struggles and pain, of course it does, but do I allow those things to rule over me or do I find a way to make them work to my advantage? Besides, ADHD is a part of who I am it is not separate from me and I cannot banish it, if I call it an enemy, then ultimately I am calling a part of who I am within an enemy and that’s something I simply cannot and will not do any more. Now, on the other hand, if ADHD could be cured or if it was a tumor that could be removed, then we would be talking about something else, but we are talking about something that is a part of who we are and no matter what angle we come from, it will always remain a part of us.

If I were to sincerely think of ADHD as an enemy then I would go back to working against it, then like before, I will be ultimately working against myself. We find that in treatment, studying with a partner or a tutor helps us – that’s not fighting ADHD, that’s actually working with ADHD and suddenly, by productively managing it in a manner that is beneficial to it (ourselves actually) then we start to study better, learn better and absorb better… that’s not something I would do with an enemy. Would you? Just my perspective, of course :)

Bryan

]]> Comment on The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking by Scott Hutson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34279 Scott Hutson Thu, 18 Mar 2010 06:20:54 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34279 Bryan, I think that looking at it that way is good for you. For me though, ADD or any disorder in our brains,body,mind,etc... is an enemy. I am a fighter of these enemy's in my own life. I cannot look at any of these things as a gift to me or my family. Anything that hurts, or has ever hurt me, may try it's best to deceive me, and give me "gifts" so I will embrace them. Then later I will find out these "gifts" had a hidden price tag that must be payed by me......The taste is sweet to the lips, yet bitter to the soul....That may only be true for me Bryan. You seam to have found the way around that,.. for You. I am honestly happy for you, and will always think of you as a Friend who wants to help me and others with your insight. Thank you for this. Bryan,

I think that looking at it that way is good for you. For me though, ADD or any disorder in our brains,body,mind,etc… is an enemy. I am a fighter of these enemy’s in my own life. I cannot look at any of these things as a gift to me or my family.

Anything that hurts, or has ever hurt me, may try it’s best to deceive me, and give me “gifts” so I will embrace them. Then later I will find out these “gifts” had a hidden price tag that must be payed by me……The taste is sweet to the lips, yet bitter to the soul….That may only be true for me Bryan. You seam to have found the way around that,.. for You. I am honestly happy for you, and will always think of you as a Friend who wants to help me and others with your insight. Thank you for this.

]]> Comment on The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking by Glenn http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34274 Glenn Thu, 18 Mar 2010 04:12:49 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34274 Bryan, Thanks for the post. This perspective reminds me of the movie "A Beautiful Mind". We who have mental health issues have in substance a world in view which is distorted (but not delusional). It feels so real, but it is not what is true about us. The negativity is so relentless that we believe it is totally true. Bryan, I am a new member to this group. I believe that you are very gifted and in knowing yourself and the ability to communicate it in writing. Thanks Bryan,
Thanks for the post. This perspective reminds me of the movie “A Beautiful Mind”. We who have mental health issues have in substance a world in view which is distorted (but not delusional). It feels so real, but it is not what is true about us. The negativity is so relentless that we believe it is totally true.

Bryan, I am a new member to this group. I believe that you are very gifted and in knowing yourself and the ability to communicate it in writing. Thanks

]]> Comment on The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking by Jeff http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34218 Jeff Wed, 17 Mar 2010 01:04:14 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34218 Bryan, We are *definitely* in agreement. But my darned, stubborn ADHD keeps harping on me about the "G" word...but I'll control it for now. ;) Jeff Bryan,

We are *definitely* in agreement. But my darned, stubborn ADHD keeps harping on me about the “G” word…but I’ll control it for now. ;)

Jeff

]]> Comment on The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking by Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34206 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 16 Mar 2010 21:55:36 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34206 Sally, we've only met online and yes, I already know you have an abundant resource of enthusiasm and positivity! Please continue to "dump" on us over on our ADDer World Social thingy!! That's why I created it you know, so we could talk about our struggles, our challenges, along with the things we have done well and/or are doing well. You and I, we can become as positive as we want to be, but there are always going to be issues which jump out at us, ADHD is always going to bite us in the rear from time to time, so yes, that's what we are here for :) :) Bryan Sally, we’ve only met online and yes, I already know you have an abundant resource of enthusiasm and positivity!

Please continue to “dump” on us over on our ADDer World Social thingy!! That’s why I created it you know, so we could talk about our struggles, our challenges, along with the things we have done well and/or are doing well.

You and I, we can become as positive as we want to be, but there are always going to be issues which jump out at us, ADHD is always going to bite us in the rear from time to time, so yes, that’s what we are here for :)

:) Bryan

]]> Comment on The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking by Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34205 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 16 Mar 2010 21:51:20 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34205 :) Thanks Jacquelyn! :) Thanks Jacquelyn!

]]> Comment on The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking by Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34204 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 16 Mar 2010 21:46:44 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34204 Thank you so much Wendy. Your comment sincerely made me feel goose bumps all over, in a good way :) I am humbled. About your poem, don't worry. Please do post it on our ADDer World Social Network. Besides, I don't really have a clue about grammar either, I just write, so go for it! You've probably notice that we don't judge too much, if at all, on our ADDer World Social thingy :) Bryan Thank you so much Wendy. Your comment sincerely made me feel goose bumps all over, in a good way :) I am humbled.

About your poem, don’t worry. Please do post it on our ADDer World Social Network. Besides, I don’t really have a clue about grammar either, I just write, so go for it! You’ve probably notice that we don’t judge too much, if at all, on our ADDer World Social thingy :)

Bryan

]]> Comment on The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking by Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34203 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 16 Mar 2010 21:39:44 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34203 Jeff: PS: Your not broken and you are not a record! lol Jeff: PS: Your not broken and you are not a record! lol

]]> Comment on The Gift of ADHD and the Power of Positive Thinking by Bryan Hutchinson http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2010/03/16/the-gift-of-adhd-and-the-power-of-positive-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-34202 Bryan Hutchinson Tue, 16 Mar 2010 21:37:11 +0000 http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/?p=3256#comment-34202 Hi Jeff, Thank you so much :) ADHD is not a GIFT! ADHD is not a GODSEND! ADHD is a very serious, usually devastating neurobiological disorder! ADHD is also not a disorder of attitude, which means the way we think about ADHD will not correct the many issues that are involved! ADHD cannot be cured with or without meds or therapy! However, ADHD can be treated with meds and/or therapy and eventually managed to differing degrees for each person. Agreed? With all of that said, the term or word GIFT is going to be used in connection with ADHD for a long time to come and even when breaking it down it just reinforces it. As you know, in our culture we tend to call talents and traits that are beneficial 'GIFTS', that's a hard habit which will never be broken. When ADHD is treated well with either meds or some type of therapy many of the symptoms and traits can then be managed. When managed well, some of the traits can become useful “hyper-focusing” being an obvious one, being fast mentally is another one and so on… these then have the moniker of being called our “Gifts” regardless if the science agrees or if others approve. I tend to believe that most people want to find something positive (me included), even in issues which have caused us great devastation. On the bright side, the hope that is invoked by the use of that powerful term GIFT, that one can finally manage some, if not most of the symptoms, with some sort of treatment that works for them is leading people to treatment who may have never sought treatment otherwise. So, I do not see the term in the same light as you do or in the same context. I think we’ve discovered that we agree on many things, but I think when it comes to the term GIFT that we are looking at it from two different views or contexts. The gift of ADHD to me means that when it is treated well and managed well there are talents and traits that can be utilized to one’s advantage. There; however, is where the attitude does come in because if one truly believes there is no hope, no way to manage the disorder, or to improve, or to utilize their talents whether born of ADHD or not, then things become very difficult indeed and things are usually already difficult enough. Just clarifying my meaning and what it means to me ;) Bryan Hi Jeff,

Thank you so much :)

ADHD is not a GIFT! ADHD is not a GODSEND! ADHD is a very serious, usually devastating neurobiological disorder! ADHD is also not a disorder of attitude, which means the way we think about ADHD will not correct the many issues that are involved! ADHD cannot be cured with or without meds or therapy! However, ADHD can be treated with meds and/or therapy and eventually managed to differing degrees for each person.

Agreed?

With all of that said, the term or word GIFT is going to be used in connection with ADHD for a long time to come and even when breaking it down it just reinforces it. As you know, in our culture we tend to call talents and traits that are beneficial ‘GIFTS’, that’s a hard habit which will never be broken. When ADHD is treated well with either meds or some type of therapy many of the symptoms and traits can then be managed. When managed well, some of the traits can become useful “hyper-focusing” being an obvious one, being fast mentally is another one and so on… these then have the moniker of being called our “Gifts” regardless if the science agrees or if others approve. I tend to believe that most people want to find something positive (me included), even in issues which have caused us great devastation. On the bright side, the hope that is invoked by the use of that powerful term GIFT, that one can finally manage some, if not most of the symptoms, with some sort of treatment that works for them is leading people to treatment who may have never sought treatment otherwise. So, I do not see the term in the same light as you do or in the same context. I think we’ve discovered that we agree on many things, but I think when it comes to the term GIFT that we are looking at it from two different views or contexts.

The gift of ADHD to me means that when it is treated well and managed well there are talents and traits that can be utilized to one’s advantage. There; however, is where the attitude does come in because if one truly believes there is no hope, no way to manage the disorder, or to improve, or to utilize their talents whether born of ADHD or not, then things become very difficult indeed and things are usually already difficult enough.

Just clarifying my meaning and what it means to me ;)

Bryan

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