It’s true that with acceptance for who we are, and all which that encompasses, can we learn, overcome and thrive to achieve whatever kind of wonderful is for us. Far too often I read or hear people with ADHD berating themselves, putting themselves down and cursing ADHD, which is as much a part of who they are as anything else. Now, I am not saying ADHD doesn’t give us reasons to be ticked off, upset and feel dejected. Oh, it clearly does! But, you know what? No amount of self-deprecation will take ADHD away or force one’s self to be better or different or, heaven forbid, normal. It’s somewhat along the lines of a teacher scolding a child with ADHD with the intent that he can make the child realize that she is just lazy and, if she wants to enough, she can be normal and function in normal ‘accepted’ ways.
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With Acceptance We Can Overcome and Achieve
July 5th, 2010 · 2 Comments · 01 My Thoughts
Tags: Acceptance · achieve · add · ADHD · anger · awesome · child · Choice · control · cursing · deception · kind · mind · overcome · part · resentment · success
You can’t take it back – what is said is said – ADHD impulsivity
March 6th, 2010 · 24 Comments · 01 My Thoughts, 4 Men, 4 women, What is ADD AD/HD?
Impulsivity can lead to disaster due to blurting out thoughts never meant to be spoken.
Thoughts race through our minds, here, there and back again. Some thoughts don’t mean much, they just race by and have no concrete meaning, but every now and then, in the heat of a moment or in uncontrolled haste, some thoughts never meant to be said slip out and, as much as we would like to and as much as we try to explain and apologize, we can’t take them back.
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If ADHD were fully controllable then it wouldn’t be ADHD
November 9th, 2009 · 12 Comments · 01 My Thoughts, Love
In relationships there’s a lot of give and take. You give some, you take some and you give some more. It’s a simple and necessary principle of reciprocation.
The above sentence could just about start out any relationship book, but it’s not a very good starting point for a book about ADHD, love, relationships and sex – you know, together. ADHD brings something to a relationship which is unpredictable, frustrating and exciting and, even a bit intimidating from time to time.
I think it is a good guess that most people would enjoy stability in their relationship, with someone who is dependable, reliable and in this way somewhat predictable. However, although people with ADHD can be dependable and reliable to a degree, they can hardly be predictable, at least not from month to month and especially not from year to year.
